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Some people explain this idea by talking about the amygdala, which is part of the so-called 'lizard brain.' The amygdala lights up on fMRI scans when people are put in emotionally-charged situations. But I think this ties us too much to the brain and raises questions about whether or not iguanas feel ennui. It also makes 'lizard-like' behavior sound bad, when in fact it is essential.
Instead, I like Dan Kahneman's distinction between what he calls system 1 and system 2.
System 1 is fast, automatic, frequent, emotional, stereotypic, and subconscious
System 2 is slow, effortful, infrequent, logical, calculating, and conscious
Everyone has done things that, given time for consideration, they wouldn't have done. (Maybe just last night!) The instinctual System 1 often trumps the ponderous System 2. Casino owners and financial gurus, for example, play on the hopes and fears of System 1. I know a guy who works at a casino and knows full well that you can't beat the dealer, yet he consistently blows his paycheck gambling.
So what are you supposed to do? You might think we should try to squash System 1, but there are good reasons we evolved in this way. We simply don't have time to think through every single choice we face. We have to rely on habitual responses formed by experience and evolution. If you're about to get hit by a bus when you're crossing the street, you want System 1 to make you to jump out of the way. You can't estimate the bus's velocity, calculate the time to collision, and make an informed decision. We are constantly faced with situations like this where we have to act quickly.
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I think it's easier to curb System 1 when you see other people acting in System-1-dominated ways. For example, if a co-worker is flipping out about a client, don't feed into their response. Reacting in kind will only escalate the situation. Remember that their current actions are not their considered actions.
I often notice System 1 responses when people are asked to do things, especially at work. The reaction might be either positive or negative, but neither is very helpful. It's in my nature to say, "Sure, I can do that," without thinking about how or when I could. I might not consider a deadline coming up, so I might leave someone hanging. On the other hand, some people tend to say, "No, I have no time," also without thinking much about it. They can't be busy until the end of time, but because they feel busy now, they respond negatively. For this reason, I try to ask "Ok, when could you do that?" whether they say yes or no. This question requires a System 2 response.
Now, obviously your brain is not divided into two parts, or any number of distinct entities, but the two-system tool is helpful. At least, it helps me get along with other people a whole lot better.
(By the way, you might think it's odd that Kahneman could win a Nobel prize for such an obvious distinction, but economists got a little too enamored with System 2 in the mid 20th century. Also, do not read Kahneman's ridiculously long book. The distinction is not that hard to understand. His NYT article is all you need.)
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